It's been said, Hindsight is 20/20. When I was dating my husband, I was slightly oblivious to how much of a role in-laws and extended family would play in our relationship. In fact just a few months after we were married, I had driven to the mall to go to the bookstore. I was looking for a book to help with some of the struggles we were facing. In the store window, on display, was a book by Brent Barlow titled, "Just For Newlyweds." I thumbed through the pages and decided to purchase it. The principle I found to be so profound and the one I remember clearly from that book was his description of a newly married couple happily driving off into the sunset, alone. He went on to explain that even though it's just the two of you, as you check the rearview mirror, you will see your in-laws and extended family... and they will ALWAYS be there. I have learned the importance of these relationships and how beneficial they can be.

In the Bible, Genesis 2:24, states “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife."  This scripture helps us understand that our spouse needs to be our number one priority. Our parents and families have played a vital part in our lives and we should continue to honor and respect them however, our allegiance should now be first and foremost to our relationship as husband and wife. 

Now as a mother-in-law myself, I am sensitive to respecting the relationship of my children with their spouses. I try to make both my daughters-in-law and son-in-law feel that they are important parts of our growing family and everyone is loved and accepted in our home. I also strive to support my married children in their relationships with their in-laws. Peace and harmony in these relationships will only help strengthen homes and families. There will always be differences and struggles in personalities within families. However, when we keep an eternal perspective and truly look for the good instead of being judgemental, we will be blessed for our efforts. As stated in the Family Proclamation, "The divine plan of happiness enables family relationships to be perpetuated beyond the grave." Knowing this truth should inspire us to give this highest priority.